The Wali: A Benefit for the Suitor as Well

The wali is not just a safeguard for the woman—he also serves as a source of clarity and trust for the suitor. Through the wali, the man can:

• Verify the Woman’s Readiness for Marriage: The wali ensures that the woman is truly prepared for marriage and not engaging in emotional indecisiveness that could waste a man’s time.

• Confirm Her Marital Status: Sadly, some men have encountered situations where a woman is still legally married or in 'hidden' relationships. The wali eliminates this risk by providing honest verification.

• Assess Family Expectations: The wali can provide clear insight into what the woman's family expects in terms of mahr, living arrangements, and Islamic values, preventing miscommunication later.

• Ensure Sincerity: Just as some men may deceive women, some women may also misrepresent themselves. The wali acts as a trustworthy figure who ensures that both parties are entering the marriage with pure intentions.

The Wali and Previous Marriages: A Hanafi View?

It is true that some follow the Hanafi school of thought, which allows a previously married woman (thayyib) to marry without a wali. However, the stronger opinion—and the one followed by the majority of scholars—is that a wali is still required, as per the hadith:

"There is no marriage without a wali." (Sunan Abu Dawood 2085, Jami’ at-Tirmidhi 1101)

Even if one wishes to follow the Hanafi view, be advised:

• Not involving a wali may expose both parties to deception or hidden issues.

• Many men have regretted bypassing the wali, only to later discover red flags that a wali could have warned them about.

• A righteous wali ensures transparency and facilitates a stronger marriage foundation.

At Haqq Nikah, we highly encourage involving the wali, as the wisdom of this process benefits both men and women, creating marriages that are built upon trust, transparency, and the Sunnah.